1. It’s Affordable. Hiring an attorney can cost thousands of dollars for even a simple case, without a firm guarantee of proper resolution. Mediation provides an affordable alternative to costly litigation.

2. It’s Fast. Lawsuits can take years off your life in waster time, frustration, money, and emotional pain. Mediation usually takes only a fraction of the time that the legal system takes.

3. It’s Confidential. Cases handled in court are typically open to the public, so anyone can listen in on your private life. Confidentially in a mediation is protected by law, so you can resolve your dispute with privacy and with dignity.

4. It’s Empowering. Traditional litigation is hostile, adversarial, and aggressive. It focuses on assigning blame and punishment. Mediation doesn’t assign blame or punishment–it seeks to invent solution to a mutual problem through cooperative problem-solving.

5. It’s Emotionally Healthy. The legal system rarely takes the psychological or emotional factors of either party into account. Litigation is cold, hard, and uncaring. Both parties are instructed not to talk to each other and neither side gets to voice their concerns. Mediation uses the psychological power of empathy to create mutual understanding

An expert family and divorce mediator, a PhD candidate in the area of Conflict Management within the Family, mediation trainer and keynote speaker. A member of the Family and Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York, of the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators, and of the Connecticut Council for Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Practice. Michelle’s goal oriented yet empathetic mediation style and her extensive knowledge in the field of mediation and conflict resolution has allowed for many couples to end their relationship and resolve their disputes in the most peaceful, amicable, respectable and affordable way. 1-800-509-6953 www.DivorceWithoutDisaster.com

What is a Parenting Coordinator?

By Michelle Rozen, a Parenting Coordinator in NYC, Northern NJ, Westchester County NY, and Southern CT.

A Parenting Coordinator is a neutral professional, appointed by the Court or chosen by the parties for cases of high conflict post divorce cases, where there is great difficulty in co- parenting. This is a professional who is both a therapist and a mediator, familiar with family law as well as with psychotherapy or mental health counseling and with the field of Conflict Resolution.

Parenting Coordinators must be experienced and well-trained in child development and in what constitutes an appropriate visitation schedule.

Parenting Coordinators are not usually lawyers and do not give out legal advice, but must have knowledge of the legal process and a working knowledge of family law.

The Parenting Coordinator works directly and openly with both parents to help them communicate more effectively and to try and avoid and/or immediately resolve conflicts around child-related issues that come up.

Most cases seem to benefit from opinions and guidance from Parenting Coordinators who help make communication more effective. In addition, the Parenting Coordinator mediates issues and when the parents are unable to agree, the parenting coordinator is often given the power to arbitrate (decide) what the result should be.

Ultimately, the court has the final say over child custody and visitation issues, but a Parenting Coordinator can drastically reduce the need to go to court and therefore reduce conflict for the child in that family

The most significant impact that a parenting coordinator makes is in ultimately fostering communication and problem-solving skills between the parents. This, in addition to helping parents to recognize some of the underlying issues that cause parental conflict

It must be remembered that the Parenting Coordinator may report as necessary to the court.

The Parenting Coordinator can also be a facilitator between parents in issues where there is a difference of opinion.

The Parenting Coordinator can in some cases determine when, or if, a child is ready, equipped for, prepared for and or disposed to an increase in visitation.

The Parenting Coordinator develops with the parents a detailed parenting plan, which is agreed to by all parties. While flexibility allows for more room in making transitions easier for children, sometimes the more detailed the plan, the less room there is for conflict.

Michelle Rozen is an experienced, highly trained mediator and parenting coordinator, a PhD candidate in Conflict Analysis and Resolution with a specialty in family related conflict management, and a Family Therapist. A member of the American Association of Conflict Resolution. Michelle’s goal oriented, solution focused personality and parenting coordination style has helped many divorced or separated couples improve their co-parenting in order to allow their kids to thrive in spite of the divorce. Michelle Rozen’s private practices for Parenting Coordination are located in Midtown NYC, Bergen County NJ (covering Bergen County, Essex County, Morris County, and Union County), Monmouth County NJ, Norwalk CT and Westchester county NY.

HOW TO GET A DIVORCE IN NEW YORK?

(without creating a hole in your pocket, losing your sanity and going into a long and costly process)

By Michelle Rozen, Expert Divorce Mediator, 5 Penn Plaza, 19^th Floor, NYC 10001, Owner of Divorce Without Disaster, Affordable and Professional Divorce Mediation Services

1. Contact a mediator. Mediation always offers the most amicable, same and affordable way to get a divorce or a legal separation.

2. Schedule a free of charge consultation meeting. It is a great way for both you to gain information about the process and about your options. By the time you leave this meeting, you will be very clear about what the process is, what to expect and what the next steps are.

3. Consider legal separation. This can be converted to a divorce after one year.In New York you must have a reason or “grounds” for the divorce. No-fault divorce doesn’t exist in New York, and for many divorcing couples, legal separation is the best way to go about divorce without assigning fault.

4. Keep in mind that mediation is confidential, short term, and goal oriented. There are no Court appearances, no messiness , no ugliness. You are going through a very tough time in your life. Mediation makes your separation easier to deal with emotionally – and certainly financially.

5. You will be encouraged to seek legal advice but you will not be litigating your case in Court.

Spare yourself, your spouse and your kids the agony of a messy divorce. For more information, please visit www.DivorceWithoutDisaster.com or call 1-800-506-6953.